In my final blog of the year I thought I would use the festive period to share twelve things I have learnt over the years in a no non sense short and sharp manner. I stress that these are my lessons and you may not agree with them but hopefully they will give you food for thought as we head into another big year for us all...
1. Nobody Owes You Anything
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s nobody owes you anything in life despite what you may think. The sooner you get your head around this, the more peace you will find day to day. You are responsible for yourself and what opportunities you find and exploit. If you really want something, then work hard and earn it. Don’t expect anyone to do anything for you. If they do, it’s a privilege, not an entitlement. Never forget that!
2. People Will Come & Go
As you grew older, you will notice your circle of true friends becomes smaller. You’ll be so close to someone today, and suddenly you aren’t talking to them anymore tomorrow. Unfortunately that’s life but it doesn’t have to be perceived as a bad thing. People grow apart rather than grow as a part of you. Accept that and move on. People will walk in and out of your life for various reasons, try to work out those reasons, take the lessons and the experience and keep moving forward.
3. Opportunities Are Everywhere
Opportunities are everywhere, all around us, if we are just present and open to them. Sometimes we are so focused on the big win, or the thing right in front of us that our radar misses the low hanging fruits that are ready to be picked off in easy reach.
4. Pay It Forward
Remembering where you came from is super important but alone, it is not enough. Once you reach some kind of level of success in your field, it’s important that you pay it forward. If you’ve had your chance in the spotlight, help others get theirs too. Seeing other people flourish and grow as a direct result of your help is incredibly rewarding I promise. Don’t trust it, test it!
5. Always Back Yourself
One thing I’ve had learnt over the years, whether from the adversities I’ve faced or the challenges I’ve taken on, is that we are capable of much more than we give ourselves credit for. The biggest difference I've noticed between successful people and unsuccessful people isn't intelligence, work ethics, access to opportunity or resources. It's the belief that they can make their goals happen and become a reality. If you don’t believe in you, then no one will!
6. Make Your Contacts Count
You will have built a lifetimes worth of relationships and many of them will be sitting easily accessible in your phone book, on your social media or in your email box. Humans have a terrible habit of only reaching out to people when they need or want something. Reach out to your contacts and see if you can help them, always keep the network alive and watch the good karma unfold!
7. Don’t Mistake Probability For Possibility
A common mistake for many is the lack of clarity on what is completely impossible and what is merely unlikely or improbable. I have always lived by the mantra than anything is possible if we truly believe it and are prepared to make the sacrifices to make it happen, however various risk factors make some things in life less and less probable, it’s up to you to work out the rest but for me the stronger the mind believes the more likely it is to conceive.
8. Accept Failure
It’s easy to beat yourself up when you fail. This is something that we all do very well, me especially. Failure is a necessary and inevitable part of life. If we do not fail, we will never learn how to pick ourselves back up again and be stronger and more resilient as a result of it. When it comes to failures, attitude is absolutely everything. Embrace the opportunity to learn and really understand what went wrong, that way you will be sure it won’t happen again.
9. Do More Of What Makes You Happy
This sounds really obvious doesn’t it and perhaps too simple but in recent years I have come to understand and implement that the true art of happiness is to combine those things that make us happier into the fabric of our day to day lives. You just need to make sure you take time to stop and think about the things that really make you happy, and how your current life supports them. Don’t put them off, start factoring them into your routines now! In this sense, if it makes you happy, you really should be doing it.
10. Zero Negativity
A negative mind will never give you a positive life. How we attach meaning to events, experiences and the circumstances we find ourselves in, in our lives has a large influence on the quality of the life we end up living. This perhaps is the most important lesson I have learnt in recent years and I’m so happy that I really got to understand this better in 2019.
11. F**k The Haters
It doesn’t matter how much good you do in the world or how much positive energy you push out into the atmosphere. There will always be haters that will pop up now and again, they tend to group together in very small numbers too. All I can say is “F**k Them”. I don’t like swearing at the best of times on my blog but there is simply no other way to put it. One of my favourite things about haters, is that knowing that there are people in this world that would do anything to see me fail promotes a feeling of motivation unlike any other fuel out there so I will also take this opportunity to thank them too!
12. Be The Difference That Makes A Difference
If we all give a little back in this world, I truly believe we can do so much good together to change the lives of those less fortunate. I am currently experiencing this first hand with some credible people helping me. If you feel you want to give a little back and join our movement please do get in touch. We are passionate about helping children and inspiring the next generation. I know we won’t change the whole world but we will and are doing for a handful of kids out there that really need our help.
*Wishing you all a very merry Christmas and best wishes for a super successful 2020*